Just a woman who fell in love with writing and finally found her voice.
Firstly, thank you for visiting my website.
Whether it’s out of curiosity or with intent to read something I’ve written, I’m truly grateful to have you here.
My name is Annika Spalding and I’m a creative writer.
I fell in love with the written word long before I was confident enough to speak my truth, and so it will forever have a place in my heart. It was a private passion until I self-published my first book and I realised that I could make my dreams come true. It inspired me to pursue other life goals, leading me to graduate from the University of Wolverhampton with a 2:1 in Creative and Professional Writing. I became the heroine in my own life story and I’ve been conquering inner battles and winning wars ever since.
I reading love stories, fact or fiction, real or imagined, and everything that sits in between. I lost myself in adventure books when I was a child and in adulthood I find myself in the words of personal development books.
As a writer, I’m leaning away from creating content that mimics that of my peers and constantly redefining what it means to write my truth.
I am a mother to two Taurean girls, who teach me every day what it means to be full of life, curiosity and love. Much of my personal journey with self love began at the point I had my second daughter, because I was eager to move away from the unhealthy blueprint left for me and desperate to create a better one for my children instead. As parents, we teach our children the most by doing, not by speaking, so I’ve been learning to heal, grow and live in my truth since 2013 and I have no regrets.
The birth of something awesome
After years of rediscovering myself, finding my voice and building my confidence, I realised how important it was to have safe spaces to share those experiences. The healing journey requires you to embrace vulnerability instead of resisting it, but you need space for that. For me it was important to have a community that would honour me growth, that would welcome my vulnerability and strength, judging me for neither and loving me for both.
I also learned to get to that place, I needed to own my own truth, take accountability for my part in the past and redefine what it means to be me in the present. I’m a writer who loves to write, and I talk endlessly about using a journal to help deepen the connection you have with yourself. I incorporate a lot of this in my creative 1:1s too.
I’m creating such a space, opportunity and community with my writing and wellness company. It’s called Orsum and you can read more about it here.
As I type this, I’m almost at the end of a memoir that I’ve been writing for 18 months. Despite writing books and many blog posts, it took a long time for me to finally write about myself. Giving myself permission to put my experiences into writing was a turning point because it was simultaneous with the level of healing I’d begun.
Where I was once dismissive of my experiences of childhood sexual abuse and domestic violence, adult gaslighting and betrayal, mental health decline and emotional disconnection, I finally addressed it all through counselling.
I stopped looking outside of myself for clues on how I should heal, and instead took steps that just felt right. Medication, counselling, boundaries. It’s been beyond transformational and one day you’ll read all about it.
What I want for you to know is that you can come from an adverse background and still create a life you’re happy to live in. You can experience trauma in the past and still heal. You can experience trauma now and still have potential. It is not the trauma or the aftermaths of it that defines us, it’s who we are underneath it all, in spite of it all.
After years of being silent to keep the peace, I’m speaking out, setting boundaries and I’m giving myself the love I needed 20 years ago.
And despite being in my 30s, I feel like I’m still only just starting out. So, my name is Annika, I’m in a state of becoming who I am and this is where I’m sharing my journey.
While you’re here
I created my website with love, excitement and passion. I want you to get the most out of your experience of me, so please make sure you visit the following links:
Thanks again for giving your time to read my work.